Devorce in islam

Why Divorce? 
It is food and not the medicine; which is essential for the survival of a human being. If a person takes only 
medicine in place of food; then obviously he is going to put his life in jeopardy. On the contrary; if a person falls sick; then, there is no way; but to take medicine. 
In our marital life; a situation may arise; when divorce plays the same role as of medicine. The use of divorce without considering its consequences would 
wreck the marital life. But if there is no way to continue the relationship as a wife and husband; then there is no choice but to opt divorce as last resort. 

Today in our society, divorce has become a serious issue. Misconceptions have been the root cause in making divorce an issue. By imagining the problems of 
divorce, some people suggest that divorce itself should be banned, while others are of the opinion of putting conditions to make the divorce next to impossible. Some advocate that the right to divorce should be given to women, while some opine that the power should be 
rested in the hands of the court. Some say that considering three divorces as one can solve the problem. while others search ways to remarry their previous 
after pronouncing three divorces. Thus, this issue h varied opinions. Is divorce a subject that can be deb by any person? Or are there no guidelines at all regarding divorces in the divine Shariah which was revealed by Allah, the creator of worlds, and which is full of Wisdom and is the only means for the betterment of mankind And Of course there are ample guidelines present in the Shariah on the subject. One can come know by the teachings of Quran and Hadith that when and how pronounce is divorce
So let's study the teachings of Islam 
regarding this issue. Before divorce 
The first question is that why divorce has been allowed in Islamic Shariah? 
It is a fact that divorce ends 
marriage and breaks the martial life of a couple, In normal situation marriage is essential for every individual, and it is also a Sunnah of the Prophet 
Muhammad (P.B.U.H)
Marriage is the foundation stone 
of a family. Because of this the human race continues on this earth. Marriage is also termed as Ibadat, because this 
facilitates the sexual desire to be fulfilled, and prevents from indulging into illegal sexual relationships.Undoubtedly, a marital relationship containing such 
features would be very strong.

Allah says: 
"And they have taken from you a solemn covenant". 

According to the Quran, marriage is a solemn covenant. Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) advised a Sahabi (companion) to look at the woman with whom his marriage was being arranged, and mentioned the reason as: In this way the relationship between both of you will become stronger. (Tirmizi. chapter of Nikah, Hadith No. 1087) So; efforts should be made before as well as after the 
marriage to make this relation as stronger as possible. For this purpose Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) has 
given two instructions: 
FirstlyFor both the husband and wife, the duties and rights 
towards each other have been fixed. And both have been asked to fulfill their duties. If husband fulfills his 
responsibilities, then the rights of wife are met, and if wife fulfills her duties, then the rights of husband are 
Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said to men: 
"Feed your wives what you eat, cloth them what you wear and not to abuse them (Abu Daud, chapter of Nikah) 
And he told women: 
"Obey your husband, and not allow such people enter 
his bed room that your husband dislikes. (Tirmizi, chapter 
ofAr-Rezaa, Hadith No. 1163. Abu Daud, Hadith No. 1830). 
It is a usual phenomenon in marital life to face ups and downs. In these situations both husband and 
Wife should give space and respect to each other, try to understand each other's emotions, and should not leave 
the middle path of life.
Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said to men
"No Muslim man can hate a Muslim wife, if he dislikes one thing in her, he would definitely like her several 
(Muslim, Hadith No. 2672) 
other things How logical and wise teachings these are! It is a true 
phenomenon which every one experiences in his or her life. Is there any person having some faults without 
having a lot of goodness at his or her credit? Of course everyone has weak as well as strong features in life. If 
this human tendency is taken into consideration, then controlling emotions during anger or temper would be 
easier. Quran addresses husbands: 
"(f you take a dislike to them, it may be that you ditslike a thing and Allah brings about, through it, a great deal of good". 

(Al-Nisa: 19) 

And Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said to the 
"If I have ordered anyone to bow before somebody, I would have ordereda wife to bow before her husband". 
           (Tirmizi, chapter of nikah)

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